How to get a first date
Your first date – don’t make it the last one
Everyone will agree that no matter how many first dates you have had in your life, you still tend to feel a bit nervous anticipating another one, especially if you really like the person you are going out with and you intend to take it further than the first date. Your intentions might vary from having a one-night stand to creating a family with a dozen of children, but in any case, you are not interested in coming to the first date for the sake of just having a date, right?
General first date ideas
It makes sense to determine what exactly you are expecting from this date. Try to imagine your perfect first date – with this very person. A man should sketch an approximate scenario of where to go and what to do. A girl had better decide for herself how far she’s ready to take it. First dating is tricky, and you might not like the partner in the end, but try to be positive and to tune yourself to enjoying your time no matter what happens. Good mood is catchy.
How to get a first date?
Ask for it! As simple as this. Talking to a person you’re interested in, at your office if it’s a colleague, through Internet if you’re into dating sites or chatting via messengers, on the phone if you know the number, in a bar, after all – just put yourself together and ask for a date. You will not arrange it unless you make this step. And don’t be afraid – in the worst case your offer will be rejected. In the best case – well, turn on your imagination. Isn’t it worth a try?
What to wear on a first date?
So your first date is scheduled and nothing seems to prevent you or your date partner from coming. Psychologists say that the impression of a person is created within the first ten seconds, and what can you see in such a short time? Right, the external image: stature, smile, pose and of course, clothes. So pay attention to what you look like and what you wear.
Women tend to be much fussier about this subject than men, but men should not forget about looking well, either. A tie is not necessary unless you go to a classy place, but shorts and an old T-shirt will not be the best idea either. A suit for a formal date and jeans with a shirt or a jumper for something less sophisticated will do. Don’t forget to make sure your shoes are good and clean – women often pay attention to them. In any case you should feel natural and comfortable in what you wear.
Women should remember that they should feel comfortable, as well. Don’t look fancy like a wedding cake. Don’t risk wearing anything you’ve never put on before since you my end up feeling itchy, strained, uncomfortable and nervous. Make up should be moderate, as well as perfume. Remember to be mysterious, romantic, elegant and sensual. Just don’t confuse sensual with erotic, don’t wear anything too revealing unless you wish a man to desire you right away and to think of you as a sexual object only. But do not hide your body completely under baggy clothes, either. Admit that you do want him to desire you, after all.
Things to do on a first date.
Ok, you were not scared at the looks of each other and are ready to move on. So, where are you going and what are you going to do? There is a wide variety of places you can go, just don’t forget that you will need the possibility to communicate. Leave cinemas, theatres, concerts and noisy night clubs for later dates. Now your primary task is to find a place where you will have the chance to talk without anyone bothering you. Parks, cafes, restaurants, lakes, zoos, special places… Don’t make a girl walk for several miles if she’s wearing high heels, don’t seat her on a bike if she’s wearing a cocktail dress, try not to make your partner uncomfortable, but the rest is up to you and depends on your personal preferences. You may walk, sit, stand, even lie (why not, isn’t it romantic to talk softly lying on the grass and watching stars after a walk?), but do not forget to talk. And do not forget to touch. Yes, you have to touch each other even on a first date, whether you intend to lead it to sex or not. Those should be light sensual touches, holding hands, touching hair, smelling necks, a man helping a girl get out of the car, cross the street and so on. First date kiss may or may not happen, but it’s better if you try to steal one. It’s up to a woman to say “no” or to cede, but it’s up to a man to make her want it. Dare!
What do say on first date?
The main purpose of the date is to get to know each other better, and to this end you should talk. There are lots of tips about how to build a first date conversation, and they often contradict one another. Remember one thing – you have to feel at ease and to enjoy the conversation. Your purpose is to find out more – so ask questions, react to the answers, comment on them, joke, smile, look into the eyes, show the interest, build a bond, reveal your inner self, but leave a mystery, be open, but don’t go too deep into the hidden corners of your personality. Questions to ask on a first date may include anything from job and hobbies to dreams and philosophy, there are no proper or improper questions, there are right and wrong situations. The main thing is not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. Your partner will not remember all the details of your conversation, but will definitely remember the atmosphere and the energy of it. So create the atmosphere, and try to make it positive.