Tips on flirting
Flirtation is usually the first step in love, it’s like bombarding the person of your interest with the whole “arsenal” of your attractiveness and at the same time watching and analyzing the reaction to this bombardment: looks, emphasizing the attributes of the appearance, compliments, scents of perfumes, light touches…
Experts distinguish male and female flirtation. Tips on how to flirt will depend largely on your sex. Flirting with girls, a man as if unintentionally emphasizes his manly qualities – courage, strength, depth of intellect, eloquence etc.
Flirting with guys, a girl uses coquetry. There are many interpretations of this word, but one thing is sure – it implies actions by which a woman tries to look more attractive in order to be liked by a certain man or by men in general.
How to flirt with guys? A girl attacks a guy, artistically applying the weapons of smiles, tender looks, negligently emphasized body curves, elegance of clothes, aroma of the body and a number of other tricks. It’s very important to make pauses after such “attacks”, they intensify the effect of suggestion and the hypnotizing influence of sensual stimulations.
How to flirt with a girl? A guy who wants to draw attention of a girl shows his confidence, uses looks and smiles, jokes, teases a girl, does things instead of suggesting things thus showing his domination and strength.
There are a lot of flirting techniques, for fast flirting, for “innocent” flirting, for serious flirting… And still, there are some flirting tips which will tell you how to flirt in any case:
Make the first step, and make it properly. The phrase “Would you mind having a breakfast with me?”, said in the evening, will hardly attract the person you like. The best way, as banal as it may sound, is to greet the person first and then act according to the situation, but avoiding blunt comments and hints that the person only interests you as a sexual object. An experienced heartthrob, intending to spend the night with an attractive lady, will do it in such a way that the person will never guess the true purposes of the acquaintance.
Don’t be afraid to risk. Come up to the person you like and start a conversation with him or her. Be brave and relaxed. It’s hard to predict whether you will be rejected or not, but any number of tips for flirting won’t help you unless you give it a try. The main thing is to be enthusiastic. By the way, a lot of girls believe that starting an acquaintance is men’s business. But there is nothing wrong with a girl starting an acquaintance with a man. Probably the man also noticed her but simply didn’t dare show initiative due to his natural shyness.
Making the first step, you should be sure that your appearance is perfect. Dirt under your nails and a spot on your clothes most probably will not remain unnoticed by your interlocutor. Note that the brain forms the first impression about a new object in just a few seconds. Remember, the only thing you cannot change is the first impression.
Smells pay an important role in perception. But you shouldn’t think that a good perfume will score you all the points. The main role belongs to your natural smell, or rather to the particles it consists of called pheromones. Our inexplicable attraction or even appetence towards a particular person is caused largely by the “work” of pheromones. You should know about it, but you cannot influence it – alas, this is genetics.
Be playful. Talk about abstract topics. Joke. Do not discuss Kant. Most probably you will not get a responding reaction, but scare the partner who might suggest that you’re a boring person. Be spontaneous. Try to avoid banalities, and your success is guaranteed.
Don’t be passive. Take the initiative into your hands if you see that your partner is reserved and shy. Try to get him or her talk. Don’t allow any pauses in the conversation. Scientists have proven that our brain gives a verdict about the intellect of a person judging by his or her manner of speaking. It perceives people who formulate their thoughts fast and clearly as intelligent, while the contents of the speech are estimated in the last turn.
Listen. Don’t turn flirting into a marathon of expressing your thoughts. If you see that your partner has something to say, don’t interrupt and listen, and only after that start commenting on the heard information, showing your sincere interest.
Establish an eye contact. Look into the eyes and not at the napkins in a bar or at the trees in the street. Otherwise the partner might think that you either lie or are very shy. The first impression might be spoilt. Of course, you should not devour your partner with your eyes either, it might make him or her feel uncomfortable.
Compliments bring 100% success. But you should be careful with them. Be original, don’t use banal compliments which your partner must have heard a lot of times already. At the same time, don’t invent anything. Be sincere and sensual in your statements. Only experienced heartthrobs can lie into the eyes of a person without causing any suspicions, and they do not have the best reputation among girls.
Touch. Agreeing with your partner about something, touch his or her hand. Do it as if unintentionally as a sign of agreement with his or her statements.
Smile. Smiling is always welcoming.